The Wee Democracy

all i need to know about dating i learned from sex and the city

it's no secret. i watch, love, exalt the virtues of sex and the city. it's a great show. the thing i love about it, and about most of the shows on HBO (save Curb Your Enthusiasm) is the realism of it. granted, carrie doesn't seem to make that much money, prior to season 5 anyway, but she always has money for 400-500 dollar shoes. i'm more talking about their emotional instability. they're flawed, and they don't really change much. they learn things here and there, and change a little bit, but their core being remains the same. i love that.

let's take carrie and mr. big for instance. now if you haven't seen the show and you don't want to find out what happens because maybe you plan on seeing it in the future, read no further. they're all wrong for each other. sure they have a good time, and let's face it, mr. big is a fox, to use tesla's terminology. you want to see them work it out, but you know in your heart they won't. they're too different. carrie's got too much baggage and mr. big is too non-committal to be able to properly deal with it (see the paris/mcdonald's incident for examples of this).

or carrie and aidan. now, in their two breakups, i sided with aidan completely. breakup no. 1 - she cheated on him. he had every right to break up with her. yes, it blew, and yes i hated to see them part...the first time. but you have to ask yourself. why did carrie tell aidan in the first place? she could have gotten away with it scot free, but she felt compelled to tell him. personally, i think it was selfish. SHE couldn't deal with the guilt. aidan was doing fine, but SHE had to clear her conscience. well, if she was so goddamn conscienable, why'd she sleep with Big in the first place?? hmm? hmm?

ok, off the high horse.

breakup no. 2 - there was one scene that just about made me hate carrie. it was when she wanted to get back with aidan and she ran to his apartment in the middle of the night. she's going into this whole thing about why they should get back together and he interrupts her with "you broke my heart!!". she gets this whipped dog look on her face and runs away, like he was out of order. please...he had every right to say what he said. so boo hoo for carrie.

THEN. they get back together...things go fine...aidan proposes, and carrie says yes. ok, good. shit, I'D marry aidan if he were real and asked. so they're getting married. and she gets cold feet. SHE BREAKS OUT IN HIVES, for god's sake. she's big in female form, essentially. non-committal, "give me time" blah blah blah. bottom line. she fucked it up. she did.

now...all that being said, i still love carrie. you don't always like her, but that's what makes her a great character. like tony soprano, a character i may tackle in the coming days.

all that aside, i'm interested in seeing if the whole power shift thing that's mentioned is true. do men get to have the cards that matter when we enter our 30's? it'd be interesting....very interesting.



feeling: stagnant
thinking of: the lonely bug
song of the day: hallelujah - jeff buckley (via leonard cohen)
well, maybe there's a god above, but all i've ever learned from love is how to shoot somebody who outdrew ya. and it's not a cry that you hear at night, it's not somebody who's seen the light, it's a cold and it's a broken hallelujah